First Key to Adoption Success: A Desire to Adopt
â¢ Resolve any infertility issues.
â¢ Answer this question: Do you want to be a parent or do you want to have a biological child?
â¢ Realize that adoption is not âsettling for second bestâ.
â¢ Communicate openly and honestly, be sure both of you are 100% committed to adoption and in agreement as to what you are looking for.
â¢ Resolve any extended family issues - Are they supportive? Will they be accepting?
Second Key to Adoption Success: A Good Profile
â¢ In most cases, birthmothers will choose you from your profile - hard copy or from a website.
â¢ Profile usually contains two elements: Letter to birthmother from you and photos of your life.
â¢ Your profile should cover essential topics like - life in your home, people in your family, pets, fun things you do.
â¢ Photos should be clear, focused, and good quality, and should show your interests and lifestyle.
â¢ Your profile should present you honestly and accurately, showing a birth mom what her childâs life will be like.
â¢ Be prepared to send out a lot of profiles.
Third Key to Adoption Success: Qualified Adoption Professionals
â¢ The key to choosing good professionals is research and learning more about what different professionals offer to the adoptive parents and the birth parents.
â¢ Ask for referrals from your agency, facilitator, or attorney. Check references - BBB, Chamber of Commerce, Attorney Generals office.
â¢ Ask for references of past clients and call or email them.
â¢ Before signing with any agency, facilitator, or attorney ask these questions:
â¢ How long have you been doing adoption work?
â¢ How long is your average waiting period?
â¢ How many adoptions do you complete per year?
â¢ How much is does an average adoption cost through your organization?
Fourth Key to Adoption Success: Ability to be reached
â¢ You need to be available at any time, whether by phone, fax, pager, email, or cell phone.
â¢ If a BM canât reach you when she goes into labor, she may think that you wonât be there for her child.
â¢ If your professional canât reach you for an urgent situation, they will move on to the next family.
â¢ You have got to be both reachable AND ready! Commitment & Communication are vital.
Fifth Key to Adoption Success: Patience
â¢ If youâve been battling infertility for years, embracing adoption will take some time.
â¢ Take this time to prepare yourselves, your home, and your family to accept this child 100%.
â¢ Above all else, keep busy -- Ready the nursery, plant a tree and garden, volunteer.
â¢ Take up a new hobby that you can still do after baby is born.â¢ Take on another job to help pay for adoption until the baby comes.
â¢ Surround yourself with positive people.
â¢ Remember, there is a baby out there for you!